Sorry for the late response to Monday's question! Spousal reunion took precedence. Zou bisou bisou, mes cheries.
Regarding the LW's ex and his Facebook habits, advice varied but the underlying theme was "ignore him and sooner or later, he'll go away." I feel for the LW, as everyone did, but I'm not sure she has that many options. If she and the ex are still in high school or college, there might be a recourse for her through school authorities. She can possibly report the posts to FB, but unless they are truly egregious, I doubt much would happen.
In short, while this is upsetting, I think the LW needs to ignore it and get on with things. I'm not particularly concerned about employers finding out what her ex has posted on FB. Does anyone under the age of 25 have a completely squeaky-clean FB profile, with no mentions of partying, health problems, debts, political beliefs, or anything else that might worry an employer? I doubt it.
Dee-DeeBee, as part of a longer post that is worth reading, wrote:
When something similar happened with my ex, I ignored it and he quieted down after a few months. But that was immediately the breakup. Seven months is a long time for him to holding this grudge. Maybe he's gotten it out of his system and that will be the end of it, but keep an eye out for any escalation. If he says anything at all threatening, or anything that could be perceived as threatening, hit him with a restraining order.
Good advice for the LW's safety. And for her reputation,
RoboKitty had an excellent suggestion:
Don't post anything referring to him or this issue on your own Facebook wall. Instead, go do a bunch of really fun, interesting stuff, and "check in" at those places, "like" articles or pictures you see on the internet, start fun or funny conversations on other people's Facebook walls. Fill up your own Wall and other people's News Feeds with the cool stuff YOU are up to. What this will show him and ALL of of the mutual "friends" and Facebook acquaintances you have it that you are busy, awesome, happy, and not preoccupied with his immature and cruel display. Rather than avoiding social media interaction, use it to your advantage, make it a positive thing for you.
Bon weekend! 
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